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I literally couldn't think of anything that would be that much more fun or

refreshing than just going out socially interacting doing game doing take up

whatever you want to call it I mean it's a blast you're a very intelligent what

are you doing with a scanner like me what are you doing this the girls that

you're very attracted to the game will just come out of you

you want to be doing pickup for social interaction way that you love doing in a

way that feels good in a way that's amazing you just be yourself and let it

flow Wow it's Ellen from real social dynamics welcome to the Golden Gate

Bridge in San Francisco it's a beautiful night out here actually it's really

foggy out so you could hear these horns that the different ships are blowing out

it's actually bouncing noise back so they don't crash into the waves and I

thought it was really beautiful so I want to start a video here for you

tonight and what I want to talk to you about is actually something that I'm

very very passionate about and then it's actually how as an introvert okay

somebody who loses energy by interacting socially you can actually learn to gain

energy by talking to a lot of people or picking up girls so what I want you to

imagine is that you're somebody who you know really really depleted when you go

out for a night you go home may be feeling kind of crushed or you know you

go home feeling kind of dejected or tired or burnt out from pickup but

imagine if instead you go home feeling so fucking good that you didn't even

wanna go to sleep like it's almost like you're drunk except you're sober you

know I do that for me actually I'll come in really smooth like no effort at all

you can even over loud even talking you know yeah look you're really good watch

it

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I'm very passionate about this for a few reasons one of them is because a lot of

introverted guys are really great people and I honestly think they deserve to

meet somebody and they deserve to have a great dating life and they're oftentimes

hindered by the fact that they're not extroverts and they feel drained after

talking a lot of people so like you know we say you're a good dude

yeah let's offer a girl but you just get tired talking all these people right and

I'm passionate because I want to show guys like that actually had to change

that around but I'm also passionate about it because you know I hate

sounding judgmental but you know if you've watched my videos you know that

I'm not exactly a big fan of drugs and alcohol I think some people can use

these from time to time like in a kind of ceremonial type sense like

celebratory type sense but I'm not a fan of having to do that on a regular basis

in order to go out and socialize and meet people so what I find is that when

I go out is like I said it's almost like I'm drunk but I'm sober I'm just

laughing and having fun with everybody I'm joyous it's not uncommon that I'm

actually the person who looks like they're having the most fun there and

then who is having the most fun there and I'm completely sober and people

really admire that making me very

you're being ridiculous yeah

I find that when I go out pickup has a very relaxing calming and rejuvenating

effect on me to where I go out at the start of the night and maybe I'm

stressed out from work or I'm stressed out from things that are going on and by

the end of the night it's like a healing I feel almost a healing like I've

already to face the rest of my work week I'm ready to face my challenges I feel

like I've connected with people I feel like I've connected with myself I've had

so much fun at the start of the night I might feel a little bit introverted or

kind of tired or not social and really not enjoying it so much but by the end

of the night I feel fucking incredible now the reason that I want to share this

with you is because I filled it in the pickup community so many guys quit

because they get burnt out with it and they start to think that it's like some

kind of chore or you know some kind of kind of like you know this like horrible

experience that kind of burns them out and I think it's very important not to

get burnt out on pickup because if you're getting burnt out on it you won't

keep doing it you won't get good at it you'll just be miserable and I don't

think sex Eddy sex is enough of a payoff to do something that you hate so pick up

when done right is actually bringing energy up in you it's actually healing

you it's actually making you feel amazing and what I want to do is

actually teach you very unique insights that took me years and years to figure

out so you can gain energy from pick up and have longevity in the game you know

you care this bye-bye she morning

I did I'm good how are you you're very intelligent what are you doing with a

scoundrel like me what are you doing with this girl just kiss me hmm the

three main principles that I'm gonna teach you right now are number one don't

think about whether or not to approach use that same mental focus on just how

to do the actual approach the approach is assumed okay so don't think whether

or not you approach just think how to approach the next one is don't try so

you don't need to go up and do a song and dance do a song and dance you don't

do the song and dance for the girl dude okay don't even try just go up be

yourself as they say and I'll explain this one later cuz I realize that gets a

little bit dicey okay so I'm gonna explain it a bit later and the last one

is don't judge yourself in any way shape or form every approach that you do is a

thousand out of ten okay preposterous ly good is how you're judging yourself in

the race you're not judging yourselves cuz who the fuck would have the balls to

do that who the fuck actually has the balls to do pick up while they're sober

so for you guys so what do you think about these three principles here's how

I want to break it down for you with all of them you're noticing that you're

trying to get away from burning mental energy you want to think of willpower

basically as a muscle it's like a chemical in your brain and you don't

want to be burning willpower you want to be helping your willpower so if I sit in

a restaurant they put bread on the table the first thing that I say is get the

bread off the fucking table because I don't want to burn that limited

willpower chemical in my brain resisting the bread okay well in the same way when

I see a girl and I think should I approach should I not approach should I

approach should I not approach what am i doing I'm burning out my mental muscle

so what I do instead is I just go do a quick approach I just thought well how

should I do it is she walking that way okay I'll cut ahead a little bit and

I'll you know I'll approach her from that angle so I'm thinking what I want

not what I don't want like oh it's gonna feel bad or I'm gonna get rejected I

don't care about that I'm just thinking how do I do it so I'm not burning mental

energy thinking should I do it should I not do it should I approach here should

I not that's a burning your mental energy or gonna drive yourself fucking

crazy just go say hi for two fucking seconds boom it's great that says

what are your options are getting in there see I'm not thinking should I go

in should not go in yeah I'm thinking should I sit at the tables at the chair

beside them should I pull them out yes should I pull them on the dance floor

should I do a little funny salute shy do a backwards high-five

should I yell them shut compliment them all my energy is going into how should I

do it I'm not a randomizing it whatever comes naturally it's probably I'll do

but if I start thinking should I or shouldn't I what's gonna happen it's not

good right so I don't know I'll try I'll try saluting them is stupid okay but

it's just like first beam of mine

now the second one is don't try and when I say don't try what does that mean

that's that's really dicey right you think you're gonna get these like two

press guys that are negative and they're gonna go they're gonna be like I didn't

try I didn't try why didn't it work it's not that I'm saying don't try I'm just

saying like you just go in and chat right and what you'll find this other

girls you're not attracted to you'll kind of do okay but what the girls that

you're very attracted to it the game will just come out of you it just comes

out it's like honestly it's the craziest thing it's like if I get a beautiful

woman at one of my seminars god I do an amazing seminar so what I do is I'll go

to girls that aren't that attractive and I just chat and that puts me in a frame

that I'm not trying to game everybody at burnin mental energy and it puts me in

this nice relaxed frame right where I'm very much being myself and I kind of

ease into inner alignments well then what happens when I get a girl who I'm

really attracted to is it just flows out it is very very effortless how dinner go

loves it I'm doing a mint tea like not a caffeine just like I'm in like I think a

mint

yeah is this shawl or scarf is that a scarf anime shirt and of course I got

totally your shawl

okay that's clever Oh gross oh my god disgusting it's cool dissipating so what

Apple is like you remember earlier the night I was little more discombobulated

here more centered so nice centered energy why did that happen

cuz the whole night I've been doing that seven it's a very non tri-state I'm so

engaging I'm very engaged but I'm not like going I'm not like sitting here

with a hamster in my head like how do I better like how do I do it how do I do

it right I'm not like that and what's happening is is that I'm just

I'm at peace I bet peace I'm sitting here and I'm not

trying to win or get anything I think she's cute I'm absolutely willing to

talk I'm just clearly sitting here that's a good enough indicator of inter

I feel and I'm engaging with her but it's not like this like desperation

anything like that right so be myself I'm in no way self criticizing cuz I

assume I'm awesome and I mean you know even right from the get-go I have known

just going so you've got a situation look at the first two components right

the first one is I'm not thinking whether or not to approach I'm just

doing it but the girls are not that into it's just a very quick approach to time

out but the girls that are intimidatingly beautiful I might do a

quick approaching him out it might have not have gone amazing but at least I did

it and I feel good about myself that I at least did it so I'm building momentum

okay and then basically because I'm not trying it flows out now the last one is

I'm not judging myself I want you to really stop and be honest with yourself

about how much mental energy you burn judging yourself after a pickup in fact

her every interaction that I did I was like oh god this wasn't good that wasn't

good she didn't like me oh I feel so bad about myself every time that I did pick

up I thought that I couldn't imagine how much mental energy I'd be burning so in

my case I only judge it as good I knew every set that I did I view it as good

it's like if I have a child and one child is disabled and the other child

I love them both the same why because my creative energy that went into it I

don't judge it it's better good anything that I did I judge that's good

because otherwise you burn yourself out look how much energy I have compared to

how much energy you have look at you you look like you're like I don't keep doing

this I'm tired I just had several girls go by me that it didn't even fuck it

open how do I learn

so my view because I even had the balls to say hi at all I view it as I view it

like most people wouldn't that's my perspective I was like hey pleasure

I knew that as good how many guys would have the balls to do it I just sit

without drinking how many I mean some but very few right yeah so what what is

my choice to focus on self-judgment or should I focus on the fact that I went

in and chatted what should I focus on okay now is my energy going up or down

because I don't like that exactly it's actually going on so that's the thing is

for playing the game in a way where we're not losing energy we're gaining

energy it's all through our interpretations of whether or not we're

going to gain or lose energy for interpreting it as a personal offense

then you're gonna get fucked up if you're interpreting it as you know you

did it an approach you talked somebody and who would have a pulse to that your

energy goes up yeah yeah we got it let's look at this side like right behind you

guys right that's an awkward one you know she's like right there with the

dude I'm not even able to have to whisper she's even on the fucking phone

look at that she's on the fucking phone how fucking weird is that but I could

still just go say hi for two seconds and it like look at my heart rate right now

it's probably pretty normal if I were to just go in and say hi even if it's gonna

be bro she's on her phone she's with this group be weird and awkward

so Swiss no word spoken once nope

okay yeah now put these three components together and what's gonna happen you're

just seeing a girl do a quick approach you're out um you're not really trying

so you're just kind of being yourself you're getting to a natural relaxed

social momentum because I think with introverts we overthink it and we burn

ourselves out and the last one is where you're not judging yourself as bad

you're always judging it is good because who the fuck would have the balls to

approach at all most guys don't have the balls to approach at all it's not so

cold approach pickup is this thing every guy can do so you give yourself

compassion and what I find is it with just those three simple steps I wind up

going out I approach a bit and it goes decent I approach a bit it goes more

decent I approach a bit it goes good I approached a bit it goes amazing and by

the end of it I'm in this nice relaxed state where every girl that I see I'm

just talking to maybe not every girl but like a lot of them you know I'm just

talking I relax I'm not being a try-hard I'm letting the personality kind of a

rise out and then I'm always judging myself as good so my self-esteem is

going up and up and up cuz I'm like a my only criteria for success is that I

approach at all and by the end of it I'm feeling fucking amazing and that is what

I want to see for you as well do you member what I said earlier about letting

go well that's the thing is like a lot of Eastern philosophy teaches this which

is that like the I mean in Eastern philosophy they get a little woo with it

but they say like you know the divine presence or the present energy is there

but stop trying to control it let it possess you so what I do a public

speaking event for example I really just get out of my own way but to be fair if

you're new it's like like you know you never talked to a girl before just get

out of your own way it's not the most helpful advice you know you do need some

step-by-step but if you're wondering how I'm doing that it's yeah it's like I've

done it enough to get the general step-by-step and then from there I'm

getting out of my own way just say leo I've dreamed about the smaller

Titanic ever since I shared that Leo then yes look at the lamb blip and the

dad barn Leo does not go bad but that's all you need to know and just be like

yes Dario this purely imaginary

that's amazing look okay it's called a topknot yeah okay I thought that was

something at home by the way those horns are also not real now again though it's

coming back to energy because you're asking why is this energy flowing

through well the three principles that I always teach you for energy is don't

think whether or not your approach put all that on how to approach you're not

burning energy don't judge yourself view it all it's good so you're not burning

energy and then you don't even need to try it because the girls that you like

better you're gonna do a better job soon operating energy and then as you're

socializing you're getting more in the moments so almost like a great

meditation session where you're getting more and more present by the end of you

like god I feel good game is an even higher degree of that it's like it's

like meditation on steroids because it's like an active meditation where you're

getting more and more out of your own way and then you're giving and there's

so much Energy's giving out and then the girls are giving energy back and it's

just like so you know that's the guys that are really great they have a great

night out I call that like sober or like or drunk while being sober or like high

while being sober so I mean a lot of guys say to me like Tyler you know why

aren't you into like drugs and booze and I'm like dude typically I'm having more

fun than the guys that are drinking or getting high how what are you 25 that's

a good age what do you do I'm in graduates what are you taking I am

getting my MFA what is that

so even smart hoes like the man bun that's good

even smart hoes love we can cry together perfect a car feet and we can draw a

line in the sand of the beach and then the waves will wash it over and then we

can cry again like tomorrow yes tomorrow

this girl is the mother she's pulling me she's quite she knows what she wants and

how to get it alright hope you enjoyed this crazy weekend um you probably

noticed that I have so much fun on these things it's almost insane I mean I

literally couldn't think of anything that would be that much more fun or

refreshing than just going out socially interacting doing game doing pickup

whatever you want to call it I mean it's a blast it's it's a huge hobby for me

honestly just about anything in my life I could trace back my success to the

amazing emotions and just like great feelings and refreshment and nourishment

and almost like life blood or water that I get from doing game pickup socially

interacting whatever it is that you you don't want to call it now you'll notice

here that the major focus that I've taken is on longevity okay in other

words this is something that you can do as a lifestyle not as this temporary

little thing so if you look and say it died for example you know some guy might

will power his way through chicken and broccoli for a month and it's like okay

yeah I could do this I'm a tough guy look at me I'm a tough guy I'm eating

chicken and broccoli I'm so tough but dude you're not gonna eat chicken and

broccoli the rest of your life it's gonna drive you nuts it's gonna run you

down so what do you do let's say that first month you get really inspired

you're doing a hard diet over that month you teach yourself how to cook and as

you're teaching yourself how to cook more and more maybe you incorporate

coconut or maybe incorporate avocado or rock a cow or spices or things like that

and after a month or two all of a sudden things you know how to cook tastes so

good that your healthy diet becomes a lifestyle so get away from pickup being

this like powering through the pain and kind of thing right get away from that

like just running it down get away from that it's okay to do that at first

that's why we make videos about that about finding the willpower first cuz it

is very hard at first sight I get that completely but as time goes on I will

you just shift your focus to longevity okay I've seen other businesses that

will do these things that get them you know a lot of success early and they're

kind of burning themselves out but they're not doing it as a sustained pace

I know for me even in real social dynamics as a business everything that I

do I want to maximize it but I want it to be at a sustained pace okay so I'll

kind of wrap with that idea and the basic idea you know Stephen Covey talks

about this it's in the seven Habits of Highly Effective People he calls it the

P versus PC balance that's production versus production capacity you want to

produce but you don't want to kill the Golden Goose okay so you want to push

yourself but if you push yourself to the point that you don't want to do it

anymore you'll stop you want to be doing pickup or social interaction a way that

you love doing in a way that feels good in a way that's amazing the way that's a

blast so think about again not just producing

pickups but doing it at a high production capacity where it's fun it's

nice you enjoy it every single little thing that you're focusing on you're

doing it to make yourself have longevity and fun in it look at the rules you do

but you do an approach not whether or not you do should I shouldn't I should I

should not burn yourself don't know just how to do it you go do it nice look at

the rule it's not do I do it was it good enough to I judge myself was it bad no

it was always good look at the rules am I gonna put on a song and dance so if I

put on a slogan Jeff so this person know you just be yourself and let it flow out

as you're doing that you feel amazing you feel really good I'll see you out

I'll make eye contact with you I'll be having fun I'll see you I'll look in

your eyes you'll be having fun loud like a little silent understanding that we're

both loving life and life will be good anyway hope you

enjoyed the video I'm off to the Warriors cows Finals game tonight should

be good and I'll talk to you soon peace

the fire came round I was ready to slow part of this journey you see an

opportunity at a fucking action you align your full self towards the goal

you want to be much help promotion or use it once and think I can go right not

to mention origin because people think that they want to move only part of the

monsoon look the other part of them lost a second